Discreet Affairs

What does it mean to show discretion? In simple terms, to be discreet means to exhibit restraint in making something known to others, so that that thing is not readily seen or noticed. That said, we can easily deduce that discreet affairs just mean when two people come together and decide to have strictly sexual relations, no strings attached, on a regular basis. Discreetly, of course.

‘Discreet’ and ‘Encounter’- Does it mean Without Commitment?

From the little we learned about discreet affairs above, it is safe to say that these naughty hushed up hookups are very commitment-free. They are supposed to be, anyways. Within the context of its very nature, it makes perfect sense that the relationship should exist without commitment beyond really great sex. You’re not looking to find the love of your life or start a family or something. Nope. And you definitely don’t want someone who can’t keep a secret, trust me. It’s not going to be very pleasant finding out one morning that your “discreet” partner blabbed about your affair on social media. What you want is pure passion. Hot, dirty, unbridled sex, and you want it with someone who is on the same page with you. Someone who is seeking that excitement, the thrill, that comes with these types of affairs, and is compliant to the rules of the ‘game,’ so to speak. Zero strings attached, and the fun in your life seems to be increased a hundredfold compared to the mundane things that comprise your daily activities.

Does a Discreet Encounter mean No Strings Attached?

An important question. And the answer, dear reader, is yes. A discreet encounter does entail that there be no strings attached. In fact, most would agree, for good reason, that this requirement is imperative for a discreet encounter to thrive successfully. Anyone seeking a relationship of this nature wants to rekindle the fiery passion and excitement, also devoid of emotional barriers, that can only be experienced with someone new, someone you have no emotional attachment to. Someone that can fully satisfy your most basal and carnal desires in such a glorious way that only new encounters bring, with no strings attached. Hmm, the thought alone is enough to set one’s fingertips tingling.

Why are People Interested in Discretion for their Rendezvous?

There are a variety of reasons why people would prefer adopting discretion when a rendezvous is impending. The most glaring reason anyone would want to keep their hookups discreet is that knowledge of what is going on reaching the wrong ears could potentially be disastrous to their personal relationships. This implies that the person is in a committed relationship or even marriage with someone else, but is seeking an encounter of sexual nature with someone new. Long-term relationships are cute, they disinter a certain sense of solidness, of emotional solidarity, especially to the public eye. But let’s face it. As the years go by, the initial excitement present at the beginning of the union wears off significantly for a lot of people out there. And when that happens, naturally, they seek to reawaken that excitement elsewhere, but choose to keep it discreet so as not to put a strain on their otherwise successful relationship, which is worth preserving.

Every once in while (more often than you think, really), married or committed couples seek to add some spice and spontaneity to their sex lives by bringing in a third party to their twosome, if only for a short period of time, very possibly just a single night of recklessness. A term known as “unicorn hunting” to the more experienced practitioners, with the new third party known as the “unicorn.” It’s one of the quieter fantasies some couples entertain, but are not quite sure where or how to turn fantasies into reality. Eventually, if they indeed successfully achieve this, it’s through websites that offer these services discreetly, and in the end all encounters are kept from the inquisitive eyes of outsiders.

There are, of course, other reasons one might choose to keep their hookups or sexual encounters discreet. Single people, for instance, with more imaginative sexual prowess, who want to try out new things but cannot bring themselves to approach a member of their circle of friends. This leads them to other sources where they could meet someone and establish a discreet no strings hookup.

Where Can You Find a No-Strings-Attached Encounter?

Back in the day, paying for an escort, or braving it up and lurking around nighttime scenes like the nightclubs were pretty much the only ways to find a hookup or one-night stand. While getting an escort fulfils the part of having no strings, there is still a standing risk of being discovered, as you have to physically show up, and this compromises your plan of remaining discreet. Too many loose ends. The imminent threat of being discovered alone is enough to dampen what little excitement you might have had in anticipation for completing your search and finding the perfect escort.

Then dating agencies came to fruition, allowing individuals to sign up and be matched up with other people. There was just one problem. These agencies offered services targeted at those people who were single and for the most part, looking for something serious. The point of these agencies was to help singles attain their dream of finding their significant other, someone they could marry and start a family with. Hardly the place to go looking for worthy no-strings-relationship candidates, right?

The lack of prominent bodies to handle and facilitate matchmaking procedures for those seeking discreet relationships eventually gave rise to the advent of the much awaited online dating sites that finally started offering wider options for people with more unique tastes, including, thankfully, the option to seek discreet affairs with other like-minded people that meet your specifications without hassle or personal risk of discovery.

How do Discreet Encounters Work, Online?

Discreet encounters work online in much the same way regular online dating sites do, the only slight modification being that interested parties from both sides know exactly what they’re getting into – a discreet hookup with no strings attached.

  • Traditionally, you search for someone whose profile reflects what you are looking for. The next step is to initiate an online conversation by chatting them up to ascertain that you both are compatible and what the other is really looking for. The foundation has been laid. What remains is to build on it by following up.
  • Your follow up might be a phone call, where your discussion covers mutual tastes, fetishes, and pretty much everything you’d both like to try out when the encounter happens. Assuming everything goes smoothly with your conversation over the phone, then a physical meeting is very much in order. This is the step that seals the deal.
  • Following the agreement to meet up, perhaps going for a drink or dinner, the time to unleash emerges to its cusp and breaks free, and you both finally experience what you set out to, enjoying a discreet encounter with all its benefits and no commitment, no strings.

What Draws People into Discreet Encounters?

A person could find the idea of discreet encounters appealing for a number of reasons, ranging from married men and women looking for excitement that only an affair can provide, to singles itching to experiment, without the risk of prejudice by their social peers. Whatever the reasons might be, discreet relationships enable the participant to explore and experiment. To do things they wouldn’t, or shouldn’t normally do, by virtue if social norms. In essence, to become else. Someone with more sexual freedom and an array of sexual fantasies that they now have a chance to actualize. This is sure to bring a rush of excitement. There is also the reassurance that everyone partaking in discreet affairs do so having the same interests and desires. And, of course, there is the ever-refreshing advantage of no strings attached, and all the thrills of an affair fully present. This allows one to have several options when it comes to discreet encounters.

A Brief History of Discreet Encounters

From the age-old tales of King Arthur’s adultery (as well as incest), and his wife Guinevere’s tragic love affair with Lancelot, his chief knight and most loyal friend, to the more recent infamous acts of love affairs in the modern age like the scandal involving Gary Hart and Donna Rice, or Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, discreet encounters have been an imprint in our society from the medieval times to our world of today. Considering the status of a celebrity and how scandalous a discovery could be, many still inevitably engage in various discreet affairs. The reason is that these things are a part of human nature. A study conducted in the 1950s showed that 50% of American men and 26% of American women had interests in discreet extramarital affairs. Take a minute to imagine the spike in percentage that would have occurred in roughly the past 69 years. Having multiple discreet encounters or a quick hookup usually has less to do with the other person in the marriage or committed relationship (most times people just make up petty excuses for their actions) and more to with the baser nature of we human beings. Ultimately, such a distinction in general human character proves that it is a vital part of human behavior.


Now you know all discreet encounters are about and what they entail. I believe you also have what you need to decide whether you are capable of handling one (or more) affairs. If you so happen to find yourself in one, please be sure to maintain discretion, and be with someone who can do likewise. That way, everyone gets the most out of it!

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